Approach
17Nov

A Symbol of Safety

by Paul Sherman

I've never been one to wear a ribbon to highlight a cause. Not that I think there is anything the matter with it, just has never been my thing. This week I found myself called to attach a safety pin to my jersey. For those who don't know, a safety pin has become a symbol of letting those around you know that you are there to support them, that they are literally "safe." Some Americans have recently borrowed this tradition from the UK, who, after Brexit, adopted it as a way to reduce fear among foreigners and reassure them that they had allies. I chose to wear the pin not because I felt personally unsafe (lucky me, white middle-aged guy), but because so many around me were feeling that way. Were these "rational fears?" That's not the point. The fears are real to them. So, rather tha  Read More→

15Jun

Imperfect Action

by David Garten

The other day I came across this quote on a friend's FaceBook page that is attributed to Jon Sinclair: “failure is a bruise, not a tattoo.” It totally resonated with me and got me wondering about how much of what holds us back from trying things is the fear of failing? I’m sure I could write a book about the power of fear (oops, already been done) and how it can cripple people. My question is this: who are we afraid of seeing us fail? Other people? Ourselves? By the way, I don't have an answer to this question (remember our website is a question "ask what matters ?"). Is the fear of public embarrassment greater than internalized shame? Damn, where DID I put Brene Brown’s cell number? She’s great and I’m sure she could help me with this qu  Read More→

14Aug

Robin Williams' Death

by Paul Sherman

When David and I developed the What Matters?! model (http://askwhatmatters.com/approach), we did so with the intention of eradicating needless suffering in the world. As I contemplate Robin Williams' death, I feel called upon to scream to the world the What Matters?! practice that we call “Reach Out." (http://askwhatmatters.com/approach) It could literally save your life. Perhaps Mr. Williams would still be with us today had he been able to force himself to verbalize to another the dark place in which he found himself. For many of us, it is at our most stressed, lonely and desperate times that we tend to pull inward. We become turtles hiding from the world. We pull the covers over our head and hit the snooze button another time. We ignore the ringing phone even tho  Read More→